Everyone can define stress as they want to. But, Kelly Mcgonugal, PHD., in this book The upside of Stress: Why stress is good for you, and how to get good at it, says “we’re stressed when feel anxious, busy, frustrated, threatened, or under pressure.”
The best way to manage stress insn’t to reduce or avoid it, but rather to rethink and even embrace it.
The goal is not to get rid of our stress, but to make sure we’re better at stress and make it our friend instead of our enemy.
This is an opportunity to better understand ourselves and those we care about.
We need to understand the science of stress and our mind: mind sets.
Embracing stress can make you feel more empowered in the face of challenges.
It can enable you to better use the energy of stress without burning out.
It can help you turn stressful experiences into a source of social connection rather than isolation. This new way of thinking can lead you to new ways of finding meaning in suffering.
The biggest source of stress in our life right now could be work, parenting, dealing with a health crisis, getting out of debt, or going through a divorce.
Stress is what arises when something you care is at stake.
You need to discover your own strength, courage, and compassion.
Mind sets are beliefs that shape your reality.
The alternative to stress and anxiety is to find an upside in adversity.
Choose an ongoing situation in your life or a recent stressful experience, question yourself and ponder on the following:
What, if any benefits, have you experienced from this stress?
In what way your life is better because of it?
Have you changed In any positive ways as a result of trying to cope with this experience?
We become better by the questions we ask ourselves not by the answers we may find at the moment.
Why not take a moment and continue the questioning of yourself about how to respond and embrace positively your stressful moments?
Have a great day!